Sharing is important, but not at the expense of your requirements. Compromising is a great gesture, but not at the expense of your dreams. Helping people is critical, but not when they don't value it.
"A little boy walked on the road eating his hard earned bread. A girl, he admired, asked for some. The boy finally realizes that she ate it all, and walked away thankless. "
While we all teach our loved ones on the importance of sharing, compromising for siblings and friends, and helping; Many of us fail to explain the end limit for this kind gesture. You may find my posts radical, but the fact remains, that after a certain age, we need to teach our children to "Be Selfish".
By nature, the female is more considerate while the male more practical. A lady compromises her ambitions, dreams, likes and dislikes, many a times for her parents, siblings, husband and kids. But, the world is changing. And the need of the hour is to 'Think about yourself first, then your immediate family and then the rest of the world."
And why am I saying this? Simple - Never have a reason to blame others for things you couldn't achieve. "Only if my father allowed me to go abroad! Only if he let me choose my career path, Only if my mom allowed me to marry the one I loved! Only if my husband supported me! Only if I was free of any responsibility of my wife and kids! Only if my boss gave me that awesome project! Only if I had money to work on that idea and the list is endless..... "
Things could have changed if only - you would have got selfish , strong, determined to do what your heart said and not what the world!
"Woah!! Look at his dressing sense...
I admire her confidence...
She has a killing smile! Let me go and start a conversation with her! "
"This child's answer sheet is so neat, 5 Points Extra!
That shop (with great interiors) seems to have great stuff...Lets go shopping!
I am going to shop on website ABC.com, their packing is super impressive!"
Another take from Life today is "Presentation Matters" in your personality and work!
Almost at every step in life, knowingly or unknowingly, we have been giving 5 points extra to presentation, appearance, look and feel and yet, we teach our kids - 'All that glitters is not Gold'? The truth is that we must teach our children that as much critical is our knowledge, equally essential is our presentation.
Presentation in your personality comprises of three main mantras - Confidence, Smartness and Fashion Sense, or in short - Love yourself! Not all Indians are taught to be fashionable. We are always asked to be knowledgeable , and the rest will follow. But the truth is, A guy would say that a girl gets bonus points for being a girl; A girl would say, that she got more attention 'coz she is smart! So, knowledge matters a lot, but your personality is what brings you to the limelight. And if you are confident, strong in your opinions, looks and passion, then no one can ever pull you back! Same applies to work. You may have worked all night and invented the best phone in the world. But An Apple Iphone will in the end, pull off more than a Nokia Smartphone?
The world is attracted to beauty by nature, and it is high time we accept the truth and work towards it :)
Now, just so I am clear, beauty does not mean being fair, with lovely features, and expensive clothes and makeup! It just means, wearing a smile, taking adequate sleep, to have a glow on the face, dressing up to what the occasion demands, even if it is not expensive, and more than all, your strong confident nature. Be the heart of the party!
A short poem -
I worked all night, and walked in the meeting room next day,
looking like Einstein, with my hair hay-way and my eyes so gray.
My confidence went low as I saw my peers tease and giggle.
Work well presented, but somewhere in my heart, there was a drizzle.
This guy who was next, spoke well and was smartly dressed,
His work was average, but people were impressed.
I realize now, the secret sauce is confidence, smartness and speech.
Love thyself, and Feel Supreme, is what I will preach
By nature, World IS ALWAYS attracted towards beauty,
Be Assured, Your Knowledge coupled with Appearance will always come handy.
So, go ahead, Show Off, Be smart and Bold!
In the beginning and In the end, All that Glitters is Gold!
-Written by me
